For Pay It Forward Friday, I am introducing an inspiring guest post by lifestyle expert Mia Taylor from High Style Life.
Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, although in today’s world we sometimes become oblivious of that fact and adopt a very narrow definition of what beauty truly is. Still, we are only half to blame for that, while the other half of the fault falls on the media.
As soon as you open a fashion magazine or scroll through Instagram, you feel like giving up. The images of perfection, although not real, shatter your self-confidence and make you doubt your beauty. Well, we are here to remind you of the things you have forgotten about yourself and to show you just how stunning you are.
The Synonyms for Beauty
When you Google ‘synonyms for beauty’, the words that come out are: allure, charm, grace, refinement, class. So no, beauty is not perfect skin and a toned physique. Those are just superficial things that become completely irrelevant if you do not possess inner qualities that comprise life-long beauty.
Other features of beauty that come to mind are kindness, wit, humor, brains, and charisma, even though they are not in the dictionary. What this means is that no, you do not have to have perfect skin or the perfect beach body. Your face is already perfect because it oozes kindness, your words are witty, and your posture is the essence of grace. The next time you walk into a room, be certain that you own that room because you do.
Change What You Can, Love What You Cannot
You have things you don’t like about yourself? Join the club, and by club, we mean the world.
We all have things we are not too crazy about, so make a list of the things you can change. If you are not very fond of your tummy, hit the gym! Not only will the activity help you with body issues, but it will also be beneficial for your overall health. You have a skin condition? Thank God, there are virtually thousands of products out there that can help with that. So if you, for example, have pigmentation issues, there are procedures and products that can help you fight it. You do not have to feel self-conscious about your flaws if there is a good solution for them. But remember to still love yourself, flaws and all, as you’re going through any changes. Do things because you love yourself, not because you hate yourself.
As for the rest, like the fact that you are too tall or not tall enough, your nose is not ‘vogue’ and your chest is not what you would want it to be – so what? You were created to be one of a kind, so embrace those ‘flaws’ and turn them into your personal signature. If Chrissy Teigen is not afraid of showing off her stretch marks on Instagram, why should you be?
Look for the Right Role Models
Beyonce has strong thighs and Adele is not skinny. Do they still rule the world? Oh yes!
Models are beautiful, but they are also photoshopped and there is no such thing as flawless. Although the fashion industry has set impossible beauty standards, if you take a closer look, things are changing there as well. We have models like Winnie Harlow who is becoming a major fashion force because of her unique look and skin condition. There is also Ashley Graham, a plus size model who is killing it on magazine covers and who absolutely slayed at the Michael Kors fashion show. Let us not forget the Pirelli annual calendar! This year it featured unretouched photographs of Nicole Kidman, Julianne Moore, and many others to show that true beauty is not only unfiltered but also comes in all ages and shapes.