The following is a guest post from relationship expert, Rachel Pace. She will be shedding light on how to understand women in relationships.
It is well known that men and women are vastly different. The battle of the sexes continues to rage on and is becoming ever more complicated with gender preference variations. However, one thing is certain: women engage in relationships very differently from men. Physiologically, women have different hormones, brain wave patterns, body parts, and ways of processing information. Emotionally, women express and engage in feelings in a much different way than men. Understanding women in relationships seem to be a very daunting task, but it is one worth the effort if the following things are taken into consideration.
Women and Emotions
It is all about science. Women feel and express things differently than anyone else. Not all women express their emotions the same; some are more stoic while others are histrionic (in other words, dramatic) about how they are feeling.
But there is no doubt that women tend to be the more emotional creatures in any relationship. And there is nothing wrong with this!
There is largely a misconception that because women tend to be more emotional, that they are dramatic and incapable of being the strong member of a partnership. The ability to understand and accept the emotional part of their brain and body make women capable of being the stronger one in relationships. Particularly for mothers engaged in child-rearing, this ability to express emotion is essential.
Women Communicate Love and Receive Affection in Different Ways
No woman is the same. Because of this, it is important to take the time to understand the love language of the woman in your life.
What kinds of actions does she engage in to let those around her know she loves them? Does she give gifts, spend quality time, hug and kiss, say encouraging things, or do undesirable tasks for those around her to show them she loves them?
If you do not know how she prefers to receive affection, ASK! Ask her what would make her feel loved by you. Make an effort to show her love in the ways that communicate to her that she is valuable and priceless. She will likely blossom and show more affection in return.
Women Go Through Constant Biological Changes
As previously mentioned, women are constantly changing. For most women, every month is a slew of hormonal changes and alterations in brain and body chemistry. The changes a woman goes through regularly can alter how she responds to stimuli and the actions of those around her.
Particularly during and after pregnancy, each day can present a couple with challenges. This can be frustrating and confusing; you may never know how to respond the “right” way. If it is confusing and frustrating for you, can you imagine how she may feel?
Women might cry for no reason or briefly become forgetful as a result of hormonal changes. There is no way for you to prepare yourself for every scenario. The important part is to remain empathetic of the changes and be patient with the woman you love as she sorts out her emotions, thoughts, and feelings in those upsetting moments.
Take Into Consideration the Expectations versus Reality with Women
One sentence sums this point up:
Do not compare the woman you love to other women.
Whether it is in reference to people you are both acquainted with or the portrayal of a woman you see on television, DO NOT DO IT!
Even the most secure women can be upended by comparisons; it is easy for women to feel as if they are not “enough” for someone. Skinny enough, smart enough, pretty enough, productive enough, sexy enough…the list could go on for pages. No woman wants to be compared to someone as if she does not measure up to expectations.
If there is something you would like her to do differently, or do more of, there are other ways of approaching that conversation assertively without having to create a comparison. Be sure to have measurable and realistic expectations of the woman you love. Do not set the bar so high that it fades from view.
Above everything, just love her for who she is. There are likely many reasons why you chose to be with her. Remind her of those things every day. Never let her forget why you picked her out of a crowd of people to dedicate your time to and to love. Understanding women in relationships may be nearly impossible, but understanding and accepting your woman in a relationship does not have to be as difficult as it seems to be.
Rachel Pace is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. She has helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. Her mission is to provide inspiration, support, and empowerment to everyone on their journey to a great marriage. She is a featured writer for Marriage.com, a reliable resource to support healthy happy marriages.
Value and Uplift the Women in Your Life